“The world belongs to those who let go.”
- Lao Tzu, from the Tao Te Ching
submission:
In a BDSM scene, it’s the submissive partner, not the dom, who really holds the power. The entire exchange is centered around his desire, around her sensation. Tension and intimacy are heightened when both players are congruent in their respective roles. For the dom, attention is out - fully on the other - and they are directing the experience to lead the sub to the maximum amount of sensation that the sub can tolerate, or transmute into pleasure. For the sub, attention is in - on their own sensation - and they are creating invitations through their expressiveness.
The pleasure of the submissive is the map that every move is calibrated towards.
What if you created your life as a map of your desire, with every move calibrated towards maximizing it?
This isn’t about greed. This is about coming home to yourself - the evolutionary imperative of Cancer ♋️.
It’s about becoming real. Because if you’re not calibrated towards your own desire, you’re in submission to someone else’s. Your life is not your own.
“The spirit of evil is the negation of the life force by fear. Only boldness can deliver us from fear and if the risk is not taken, then the meaning of life is violated.”
- Carl Jung
becoming real:
You’re being a bad sub when you’re moving towards what you want but focusing on what other people are thinking of you, how other people are responding to you, or how they might be impacted. A bad sub is trying to be how you think others want you to be in order to get what you want.
This energy is messy. It causes confusion and fosters disconnection because it’s incongruent. Your environment can’t feel your authentic desire so it can only respond by mirroring the incongruence.
If you’re not letting yourself be who you are, not owning your full expression because you don’t want to be seen as… (fill in the blank), or make anyone else uncomfortable, that’s not humility, that’s ego. You’re operating from behind a mask.
Ironically, when you lean in to being the very thing that you worry will separate you from everything that you want - the love, the money, the opportunity - this is what allows you to actually receive it.
But it requires losing control.
“Some things are too important to be taken seriously.”
- Oscar Wilde
orgasm:
To create influence from the submissive state - the sub is anchored into how I feel and what I want with invitation. The invitation is the part that feels out of control.
You’re not waiting to becoming worthy of having what you want or compiling an adequate resume of suffering or effort before you receive it. You just give it to yourself so that your environment can match that frequency. You don’t wait for the money to feel secure. You feel security and the money arrives. You don’t wait for the answer to feel peace. You feel peace and then the answer finds you.
Desire is life force energy; it is the most powerful fuel source in the universe. And it’s so powerful that it can feel f’ing wild and out of control.
We all know this experience from childhood; we just wanted what we wanted. But at some point, we received some conditioning to tone it down. The problem is, you can’t actually suppress the life force. In the best case scenarios, we found healthy outlets for it so that it didn’t interfere with being seen as acceptable, or competent.
But erotic life force as an invitation? That seems unsafe and irresponsible.
Without your erotic essence channeled into what you really want, there’s no creative tension. Within a BDSM experience, or any sexual experience for that matter, if the sensation never approaches the edge where it starts to feel out of control; there’s no orgasm. Orgasm is (literally) losing control. It’s worth it.
Catalyze:
Ok, but how do I do it?
Your desire is too important to be unsupported. The alchemy that turns vision into reality and a business goal into a movement requires a container.
There’s an undeniable thread pulling you towards something bigger. You’ve taken risks. You’ve been drawn in directions that you couldn’t logically explain but have always resulted in an infusion of synchronicity.
But the next step - the one you haven’t taken because maybe it feels a little bit too out of control (even for you) - insists upon a structure. Structure and flow, as with all polarities, require each other for existence.
Through the portal of > Catalyze < my 1 month coaching experience, you’ll launch yourself into your next level magnetic identity that creates orgasmic levels of influence. Your movement will catalyze movement in the world. The love, the money, the opportunity are only waiting for you to align with them.
💚
Coach Laura
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